Hello! I love your blog, I have a friend who is a proud fat boi and he is trying to find affordable clothes in his size that are fashionable. He is a pants size 42 and doesn’t have a ton of money. Any advice for stores (online or in person) that are affordable would be great! Thanks!
hi there! I am living in toronto and would be super interested in attending the meetings mentioned on your blog at U of T regarding fatphobia, fat politics and fatness in general. I was just wondering if they were open to the public or just students at U of T (I am a student at centennial college). Thanks and cheers! Alison
Hi! Fat’s How We Roll, our monthly University of Toronto peer support group is open to everyone as long as they self-identify as poc and fat. Check out our FAQ for more info about It Gets Fatter and visit http://womenscentre.sa.utoronto.ca/ and check the sidebar on the left for updated event listings.
Do you ever think that some women who are overweight may see your group (which encourages getting fatter) and get fatter to the point that they are no longer healthy? I totally hate fatophobia but I don't think it's okay to be 250 pounds either..
The name “It Gets Fatter” is a play off of the “It Gets Better” campaign. It Gets Better might be helpful for some kids to hear, but the campaign itself doesn’t actually do anything to change the discrimination and violence queer kids face on a daily basis. Its also a campaign led by two cis white dudes with an enormous amount of class privilege, basically encouraging everyone (gay or not) to tell kids it’ll get better. The thing is, it doesn’t always get better and to simply spew this line at young people is misleading if we aren’t actually doing anything structurally to make things better for them.
It Gets Fatter, on the other hand, is meant to encourage folks to embrace who and where they are now in terms of their body. We have never told anyone to get fatter. We simply want to encourage folks to practice love and care for their bodies, no matter how fat they are or not.
Lastly, you can’t say you “hate” fatphobia if you think it isn’t “okay” to be 250 pounds. A big part of body positivity is unlearning the ways in which we have been given cultural currency and permission to pass judgment on the bodies around us. What someone looks like, what they do with their body, what they put in their body, is UP TO THEM. Using incredibly biased and culturally specific notions of health to police standards of body size is….you guessed it! Fatphobia.
'[F]atness & race are rarely discussed together within white fat activism. And yet, discourses around obesity often visibilize and centre on fat poc – even as these campaigns have little to no input from the people who are being used as props to signify the dangers of obesity. The idea that Black people have “bad” eating habits and only have themselves to blame for being fat is so pervasive in US pop culture it goes almost unquestioned or even unnoticed. And how fat racialized bodies are policed and shamed is intimately tied to histories of colonialism and imperialist and orientalist stereotypes of “the Other.” (For instance, it might be “liberating” for a white woman to walk around without shaving her armpits, but the same choice from a dark-skinned woc will mean she will often get read as a “savage” who doesn’t know how to conform to Western standards of hygiene and needs rescuing.)”
Posting late but thought some of you might like to read this!
This year at the Allied Media Conference 2014 (June 19-22 in Detroit, MI) we are coming together to share skills, experiences, stories, media, knowledge and strategies to build a more beautiful, body accepting and abundant loving future!
Please reblog and share widely!
ln this track we will gather, share and celebrate the wisdom and abundance of our bodies. Abundant/thick/fat bodies are the target of so much hate, policing and negativity, even in our organizing communities. How do we unlearn mainstream ideas of what a body should look like and (re)-learn to celebrate the diversity, resilience, wisdom and beauty of all bodies? This track will explore these questions and create spaces to challenge the ongoing ways mainstream media shames and harms abundant bodies, to name fatphobia in our organizing and activism, and to create media and practical strategies for resistance, healing and community building. We will broaden the conversation around fat activism by centering this track on the voices of Indigenous, Black, people of color, dis/abled, super-sized, trans and queer fat folks. Through workshops, panels and skillshares we will transform mainstream ideas around abundant bodies and create resilient communities, media and art centred around abundant bodies!
We are looking for sessions that speak to the following types of proposals:
Intersections between fatness and other identities
History of Indigenous/POC/Black/Trans/Dis/ability/Supersize fat activism
Anti-racist fat activism caucus for white fat activists
Health & Fatness
How to love your body
Fat bodies & desirability
Blogging while fat/Constructing the fat body online
Body movement/dance/practice for abundant bodies
Skillshares/tools for surviving and thriving
Demystifying media around fat bodies
Cyber space/futurity and fat bodies
Fatness and dis/ability
Older fat bodies and visibility
Or any relevant material to the track that you’d like to contribute or share
Proposals are due March 1, 2014 at midnight.
You may post comments or questions for the organizers on the Abundant Bodies Discussion Page on AMP Talk.
Check out this amazing track at this year’s AMC! It Gets Fatter will definitely be there!!
We are so excited to be presenting a brand new workshop next week in Ottawa! This workshop is open to everyone, but we ask allies and white folks to be cognizant of the space they take up. If you’re in the city please join us and/or help spread the word!
"Come join the It Gets Fatter Project for a workshop on body positivity and explore how fatphobia structures our vision of desirable bodies. We will look at the ways in which certain bodies are already desirable and others are not, the role of the media in shaping our desires and explore how body positivity can help reorient and shift our desire to include other and different kinds of bodies."
"A big part about being queer is that we get to make so many choices for ourselves that other people never even necessarily think about. To me, being fatpositive is queer. Practicing self-love is queer. Being honest about the ways our bodies are impacted and influenced by the messages society dictates to us and how we choose to receive those images is queer. Challenging White supremacy and the ways it operates even in our queer communities is queer, and is specifically part of a history of qpoc resistance that has been in existence before we even knew the word queer. Loving your body in a society that constantly tells you it is unloveable is queer.
As someone who has always been drawn to and tried to make a space for differently gendered and non-conforming folks in my life, it has been a struggle to openly name myself as queer. I know that as someone who is highly critical of heteronormative standards, as someone who has multiple and fluid desires, I have developed a queer orientation towards the world. But because I don’t present as queer, or what most people think queer looks like, I have never felt like I had a space in queer communities. My queerness is embodied differently, looks different than what the mainstream lgbtq narratives tell us queer should look like. And until I started reclaiming my own body for myself, I was unable to articulate this sense of isolation from queerness as well. This is why body acceptance is so important for me.
My journey started with learning to love and accept my body, and it led me to expand this acceptance to other aspects of myself as well, including queerness.”
We regret making this text post without detailing that there is ongoing conflict happening and making it sound as if everything was already resolved.
We want to let everyone know that we are fully aware that Jackie, our former colleague in this collective, is hurting and would still like this collective to stop functioning under the “It Gets Fatter” name. We believe that there is a much larger conversation that needs to happen around the events that led up to Jackie’s parting before we can even broach the topic of a name change. We are also hurting and the hurt is not going to be resolved on either side through a public forum.
When conflicts arise we need to do whatever feels right to take care of ourselves, and sometimes this means being unable to engage with those who have hurt us. Hopefully there will come a time where we will feel ready to discuss these things, when we are capable of hearing each other and feeling heard, and when that time comes we will be doing so privately (or through a community-based mediation process).
We continue to reflect on the ways in which we may have failed and hope to do better in the future, but we will no longer be discussing this publicly. We are grateful for community members who have listened, supported and guided us through this process.
“For many of us, queer or not, it doesn’t get better - it gets fatter! Instead of hating ourselves or clinging to false platitudes about how much better its going to get in some vague far off future, we want to celebrate ourselves and our bodies the way they are now. We want to create a space to talk about how important (and how fucking hard) fatpositivity can be in this horrifyingly fatphobic world. We want to talk about class and racism and sexism and ableism and queerphobia and transphobia and how all of these things intersect and impact our lives as self-identified fat people. And since we know people of color are socialized in entirely different ways from white folks when it comes to our bodies and the ways we relate to them, we want to create a space for us to really discuss what that looks like, to talk about what works and what doesn’t, and to share the ways we are surviving and the ways we are kicking ass.”—
We are a body positivity project started by fat queer people of color for *all* *self-identifying* fat people of color. We started this tumblr to build online community and love getting submissions from other fattie pocs’s (so if you identify as such, share your story/tidbit about yourself!). But over the past year this project has grown immensely and we are now also creating fattie poc community irl as well. We run two peer support groups in Toronto, present workshops on Fatphobia 101, Body Positivity, Self-Love, Fat Desirability and explore the intersection of fat with race, disability, class & sexuality. We work to create spaces that challenge body policing, cultural forms of aesthetic fascism, and structures of power that negatively impact the lives of fat people of color. For more info on workshops please email firstname.lastname@example.org.
We hope you all are having a lovely 2014. As we head into the new year, we wanted to revisit the topic of the future of this collective (something which, regrettably, we were not able to do over the summer as we intended).
Given the amount of support this project has received despite some painful transitions (including one of our founding members leaving), and given the amount of work we have done and accomplished over the past 7 months, it is clear to us that there is no way we can just walk away from this project. It means too much to too many people and our worlds wouldn’t be as bright without it.
We want folks to know that we did not make this decision lightly. Our communities are already so small and so fractured and we definitely don’t want to perpetuate or take part in more fragmentation. We hope that folks will continue to support the project and we hope that it can be a space for joy, laughter and sharing for all of us.
We are so excited about the new year and making more fattie poc community a reality!
Hi guys! I’m 18 years old and have been heavier than most others ever since I was about 5. And up until very very recently, “fat” loomed over my head like a dark rain cloud. I’ve let it hinder so much of my life, who I talked to, what I wore, where I went. I’ve been teased, joked about when others thought I couldn’t hear, and even publicly humiliated on a public school bus. I’ve been so hurt by the comments others make, it felt like I was being spit on. And I would cry so much, hating myself for not looking the way that was acceptable to those around me. Because in my mind, that was what was most important. I can hardly believe some of the things I would say to myself in my childhood diary. How I wished to have never been born so my family wouldn’t have to be embarrassed about me and my size. But then I discovered this blog and watched the countless videos and read the articles about self love and body acceptance. I’ve only just started this process and I know that it’ll be a bumpy road. It’s just such a relief to know that I’m not alone. I want to thank you all so so much for all of this.
“Don’t tell me to love my body without doing anything to challenge everything around us that actively hates it. Don’t tell me to love my body when you have never loved or wanted to love a fat body.”—Asam / IGF
“Don’t tell thin women to eat a cheeseburger. Don’t tell fat women to put down the fork. Don’t tell underweight men to bulk up. Don’t tell women with facial hair to wax, don’t tell uncircumcised men they’re gross, don’t tell muscular women to go easy on the dead-lift, don’t tell dark-skinned women to bleach their vaginas, don’t tell black women to relax their hair, don’t tell flat-chested women to get breast implants, don’t tell “apple-shaped” women what’s “flattering,” don’t tell mothers to hide their stretch marks, and don’t tell people whose toes you don’t approve of not to wear flip-flops. And so on, etc, etc, in every iteration until the mountains crumble to the sea. Basically, just go ahead and CEASE telling other human beings what they “should” and “shouldn’t” do with their bodies unless a) you are their doctor, or b) SOMEBODY GODDAMN ASKED YOU.”—
1. Your body is in flux for the rest of your life. Think of your body as fluid instead of static — it’s always going to change. So get comfortable with those changes.
2. No one will love you or not love you because of your body. You are lovable because you’re you, not because your body looks a certain way.
3. The most intensely personal relationship you’ll ever have is with your body. It’s a lifelong relationship that’s well worth investing in and nurturing the same way you would with loved ones.
4. You don’t owe your body to anyone. Not sexually, not aesthetically. Your body is yours. Period.
5. What someone else says about your body says more about them than it does about you. Look past the actual snark to the person who’s saying it, because it’s only a reflection of what they think of themselves. That’s when you’ll see how little power their words have.
6. Your body is not a reflection of your character. It’s a physical home for the complex and wondrous and unique being that is you.
7. Take up as much space as you want. You don’t have to be small, or quiet, or docile, regardless of your physical size.
8. Everything you need to accept your body is already inside you. There’s no book, or diet, or workout routine or external affirmation that you need to feel good about your body right now.
9. Your body is a priority. It’s always trying to tell you things. Taking the time to listen to is of the utmost importance.
10. Wear whatever you want. Your body shape does not dictate your personal style, and fashion rules that say otherwise are wrong. Dress yourself in a way that makes you feel happy and confident and beautiful, because guess what? You are.
I feel like the body positive movement has a lot of flaws but we need to figure out a way to have better body affirmations that take into account the social experiences of bodies.
Like I’m transgender and I experience a lot of dysphoria and that goes to war with my need to feel good about my body as a fat person. I’ve accepted my fat body but I can’t accept my feminine body, even though my affirmation would be “there’s no such thing as a feminine body”. And as a disabled person I also have issues with my body because it can feel like it hates me. I don’t even have a body affirmation for that.
And I know that there are all kinds of people who experience a war with their body either based on messages from society or their own experiences. I feel like the body positive movement needs to focus on that.
I love this post being about younger bodies because wow I could have used some of these when I was younger.
What are some body affirmations you use? What are some that you need?
I was recently started on a new medication to help treat a hormone imbalance I’ve had for as long as i can remember. I should also mention that I have reactive hypoglycemia, which makes it super important that i eat small meals/snacks throughout the day so that my blood…
Today a mother will talk about how “disgusting” fat people are and her child will internalize it. Today a father will tell his wife that he will divorce her if she ever gets fat and their child will internalize it. Today a grandmother will shame her grandchild for getting pudgy and that child will internalize it. Today a teacher will make a fat joke and his class full of children will internalize it. Today millions of children will be bombarded with messages about how thin is good and fat is bad and they will internalize it.
The “war on obesity” is creating a shock wave of weight bigotry that will be felt for generations to come.
"We’re raising a generation of kids to see fat as the ultimate failure and the ultimate sin."
My fat body is far too valuable to be treated like a car whose worth is lowered because of some wear and tear. It’s far too astounding to be a metaphor or a political statement. It’s far too complicated to run on the same formula used to fuel a lawn mower. It is far too profound to be reduced to a ratio of weight and height. And it is far too amazing to be judged by anyone.
My fat body is not a representation of my failures, sins, or mistakes. My fat body is not an indication of my level of health or fitness. My fat body is not up for public discussion, debate or judgment. My fat body is not a signal that I need help or input to make decisions about my health or life. My fat body is the constant companion that helps me do every single thing that I do every second of every day and it deserves respect and admiration.
If you are incapable of appreciating my body and treating it with respect and admiration that is your deficiency not mine; work on it or not, but I do not care. Nor am I interested in hearing your thoughts on the matter so, if you want to be around me, you are 100% responsible for doing whatever it takes to keep those thoughts to yourself. If you are incapable of doing that I will stop spending time with you – I spend my time with people who can treat me appropriately.
I will wield my beautiful fat body like a weapon. I will love it, I will care for it, I will move it, I will show it in public, I will viciously defend my body against anyone who seeks to classify it as anything but amazing. You’ve been warned – back the fuck off.
“My fat body tells the story of my strength. My fat face sings the truth of my beauty. My body flouts “conventional wisdom,” destabilizes a hundred years of lies and half-truths spoken from the mouths of charlatans. My body resists colonial rule; it refuses to be subjected to state-generated ideas of fitness or femininity. I am complete. I am hot. I am complicated. My body holds a lifetime of pain and joy and love, and you can’t see me as whole because my fat body is so powerful that it would shatter your world view, make you question the very reason for your existence, thrill your heart, incite your soul.”—read more: virgietovar.com (via fat-grrrl-activism)
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“Until eating can be divorced from value judgments, it’s going to be difficult to repair a broken food system. Individual dietary choices are not made in a vacuum, but a world filled with pressures, and those pressures must be acknowledged in a discussion of what people eat, how, and why. There’s nothing morally superior about eating one thing and not another, and people need to stop acting like their fridges contain proof of sanctification.”—Eating as Performance of Moral Superiority – this ain’t livin’ (via brute-reason)