Lindy West, Thin Women: I’ve Got Your Back. Could You Get Mine? (via thespookytenenbaums)
There is no wrong way to have a body.
But maybe not even if you are their doctor…
10 BETTER BODY AFFIRMATIONS FOR YOUNG people*
1. Your body is in flux for the rest of your life. Think of your body as fluid instead of static — it’s always going to change. So get comfortable with those changes.
2. No one will love you or not love you because of your body. You are lovable because you’re you, not because your body looks a certain way.
3. The most intensely personal relationship you’ll ever have is with your body. It’s a lifelong relationship that’s well worth investing in and nurturing the same way you would with loved ones.
4. You don’t owe your body to anyone. Not sexually, not aesthetically. Your body is yours. Period.
5. What someone else says about your body says more about them than it does about you. Look past the actual snark to the person who’s saying it, because it’s only a reflection of what they think of themselves. That’s when you’ll see how little power their words have.
6. Your body is not a reflection of your character. It’s a physical home for the complex and wondrous and unique being that is you.
7. Take up as much space as you want. You don’t have to be small, or quiet, or docile, regardless of your physical size.
8. Everything you need to accept your body is already inside you. There’s no book, or diet, or workout routine or external affirmation that you need to feel good about your body right now.
9. Your body is a priority. It’s always trying to tell you things. Taking the time to listen to is of the utmost importance.
10. Wear whatever you want. Your body shape does not dictate your personal style, and fashion rules that say otherwise are wrong. Dress yourself in a way that makes you feel happy and confident and beautiful, because guess what? You are.
I feel like the body positive movement has a lot of flaws but we need to figure out a way to have better body affirmations that take into account the social experiences of bodies.
Like I’m transgender and I experience a lot of dysphoria and that goes to war with my need to feel good about my body as a fat person. I’ve accepted my fat body but I can’t accept my feminine body, even though my affirmation would be “there’s no such thing as a feminine body”. And as a disabled person I also have issues with my body because it can feel like it hates me. I don’t even have a body affirmation for that.
And I know that there are all kinds of people who experience a war with their body either based on messages from society or their own experiences. I feel like the body positive movement needs to focus on that.
I love this post being about younger bodies because wow I could have used some of these when I was younger.
What are some body affirmations you use? What are some that you need?